Here's a simple question: Do you prefer to be around grouchy people or those who radiate happiness? Positive people are the ones we want to be around. We're not talking about being funny, but rather about celebrating the beauty of life. Neither are we talking about the law of attraction, whereby we bring to pass the things that we think about. Many people confuse that mystical phenomenon with the simple act of thinking positively.
Positive Thinking is, Above All, Thinking Differently
The truth is that there is no magic. In the course of our lives, we all go through trials that will shape our character. Life is what it is, why complicate it with dark thoughts? Instead, let's try to look at things from a positive perspective! Easy, you say. Well, yes, relatively. We just need to take a fresh look at what happens to us. However, changing our habits is not always so easy.
Sometimes it's hard to find the positive side of a situation. Positive thinking does have its limits. It is normal to be upset when we learn of someone's death or that a loved one has a serious illness. But we are always able to choose how we confront a situation, whatever it may be. Indeed, one can choose self-pity or face the situation as it is.
Both positive and negative people face the same challenges and opportunities. However they choose to see either the positive or negative side of them. For example, if something is not working according to plan, a positive person will interpret this as a lesson learned. For instance, if she doesn't sleep enough and is tired the next day, she will nevertheless be thankful for having taken the time to talk with her mother well into the night, despite the consequences.
Positive Thinking for a Better Quality of Life
A researcher at the Yale School of Public Health found that a resolutely optimistic point of view has an undeniable effect on health. She studied the responses of 660 people to a questionnaire they had filled out in 1975 focusing on their attitudes to aging. Then she correlated their responses with the ages of their deaths. She found that people who had a better attitude towards aging live on average seven and a half years more than those who perceive it negatively.
There is already strong evidence on the effect of emotions on the heart. Numerous studies demonstrate the correlation between heart disease and depression as well as the impact that emotional states, such as hostility, have on patients with heart disease.
When you learn to think positively, obstacles become challenges and hardships, opportunities to learn. A positive attitude can also affect the way you live your life, which in turn has an effect on your health. If you are going through a particularly stressful period, you will be less likely to pay attention to your diet, to keep up with your exercise routine, and make sure you sleep well, and more inclined to compensate by consuming alcohol. These lifestyles are, in turn, risk factors for cancer and other diseases. With positive thinking, you take control of your feelings and your behaviour!
Look at the bright side. Remember that:
- You are in charge of your life. Your happiness is your responsibility.
- The present moment is superior to all others: it belongs to you!
- Things could be far worse than they actually are. (At this very moment, people are waiting for a heart transplant.)
- You have control over your behaviour.
- Thinking positively has only positive consequences.
Life is full of good things! We just need to seize them. Happiness is a choice. Why not decide to be happy?