Look animated and expressive
Give good face! Popular people tend to have animated faces and make a steady stream of expressions when they’re talking or listening. Not only do facial expressions liven up our own stories, they also let other people know the effect theirs are having on us. A lot of expressions are infectious - it really is a case of smile and the world smiles with you!
Compliment but not too much
When someone tells us we’re sexy, funny, bright - whatever - it has the optimum effect the first time it’s said. Keep harping on it and you not only dilute the compliment, you also get the opposite reaction to the one intended: instead of liking you, they find you annoying!
Use ‘we’ as soon as you possibly can
‘We’re great at this aren’t we!’, or ‘We’ll have to get used to chatting this way’. Linking the two of you conversationally subliminally plants the idea of linking up in other ways. Another great word to use often: ‘you’. Instead of ‘Anyway, I was talking about,’ say ‘Anyway, as I was telling you’. Including ‘you’ makes people feel you’re talking to them specifically and it pushes the pride button. The word to use least of all is ‘I’. You’ll sound selfish if every sentence starts with it.
Does he fancy you?
Watch to see if he’s smoothing or messing up his hair. Guys do this involuntarily if they’re keen, trying to look their best. Also check out how he’s sitting. If he’s keen, he’ll tend to sit with his legs open, giving you a ‘crotch display’. It’s a subliminal ‘Me Tarzan, you Jane’ gesture, highlighting he’s got something you don’t…