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Against the idea of threesomes
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Against the idea of threesomes


I had a threesome when I was 22. My best friend and I had sex with my then boyfriend. I hated seeing him with her. The relationship didn't survive but worse still was that my friendship took years to repair. It's just not worth it.
Melanie, 37, stock broker, London

I know it's the fashionable thing to do at the moment but I'm not interested at all! My boyfriend isn't bothered either. We'd feel like we were cheating on each other.
Kayleigh, 24, student, Belfast

I once had sex with my ex-boyfriend and a girl we met whilst out one night. I hated it because I felt like I was being pushed to one side and having to share him. For a long time afterwards, I lost all confidence in the bedroom.
Alison, 27, PA, London

When there's more than two of you; there's no intimacy so there's less pleasure. I like my boyfriend to be concentrating on me during sex, not anyone else!
Laura, 28, teacher, Whitby

I am madly jealous. If another women even looks at my man I feel uncomfortable. To think of sharing him with some other chick makes me feel sick.
Shan, 41, manager, Brixton

I'm hesitant about getting involved in a threesome because if I knew the other "participants", my relationship with them would never be the same again. And if I didn't know them, I'd feel like a right whore!
Faye, 27, policewoman, Bath

My ex-boyfriend really wanted me to do this with him. If he really loved me then why did he want someone else to be with us?
Helen, 18, student, Didcot

I had a threesome with two male friends at university. I know this is a little more of an unusual set up. I didn't enjoy it at all - having to pleasure two men at the same time was awful. And they weren't interested in each other so I had to take it all. Afterwards I felt completely abused even though it had been my idea.
Siobhan, 39, manager, Manchester


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