Men's sex drive and overcoming daily routine

Our lives are so planned that I can more or less tell you when we're going to make love and which positions we'll use. We've got so many things to take care of, not least our children. Having some sort of order is essential for us, I'm not saying otherwise, but it kills off any potential for surprises! For me, making love has become a mechanical thing. I turn down her advances more and more often, and it doesn't really seem to bother Anna when I do...

> Expert's opinion
This is the most frequent situation that couples find themselves in. For a couple who live together, maintaining a balanced sex life is no mean feat. Giving up sex is often the answer to a hectic lifestyle. That works for some people who aren't particularly bothered by a lack of sex. Perhaps that's the case for Anna? If so, it's certainly not irreversible!

> The (getting some) action plan
At least once a week, Anna and Sam should allocate an evening just for themselves. Not necessarily a resturant followed by the cinema but a strategic withdrawal into their bedroom, without the TV and without the children! Why not read an erotic book together with a glass of champagne, reveal fantasies to each other, give each other massages, etc. All these little things will recreate intimacy and bring about the slice of mischief required to relight the fire!

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