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Faking orgasms: Oh yes, YES!
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Advantages of faking an orgasm

 


Boosting your partner's confidence

Every once in a while fake orgasms can be an easy option. They can even lead to some real benefits for a couple, as Melissa confirms:

"When my boyfriend and I met we were both young and inexperienced. During the first few months, there were definitely no sparks flying in the bedroom. I once faked an orgasm and as soon as I'd done it, I saw a different side to him, he was suddenly full of confidence!"

According to our expert, "For certain men, giving their partner an orgasm is the ultimate gratification; it reconfirms their manliness. In this case, faking orgasms can lead to a positive circle: with the man feeling reassured about his performance, he's no longer afraid of disappointing his partner so he adopts a more confident attitude, which actually contributes to his partner's pleasure."

Of course you should approach this with caution - especially if he's doing something that doesn't get you off. If you're really not happy it's best discussed as faking it could just encourage his bad habits.

Creating sexual arousal

Meanwhile, Claire, 23, has found another advantage to faking orgasms: "When I'm not feeling particularly turned on during sex, I pretend that I'm getting loads out of it. Just listening to myself moan and scream gives my sex drive a boost!"

Our expert explains further: "Female pleasure is complex and is often fuelled by mental images. Women tend to fantasize and act things out in their heads. Faking an orgasm is just another way of acting things out." 

Just like imagining scenarios with your partner (or on your own) can turn you on, pretending that you're experiencing an orgasm can also lead to a genuine, even orgasmic, feeling of pleasure! Bonus.




  
  

Love & Sex Editor
2012/04/13
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