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Faking orgasms: Oh yes, YES!
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Reasons for faking an orgasm

 

To reassure your partner

It is estimated that about 70% of women will fake orgasms at some point in their lives.

It's a figure that doesn't surprise our expert: "For as long as there are sexual differences between men and women, there will always be orgasm faking going on."

Men and women have very different perceptions of sexuality, but our biggest fault is to try and reason by making comparisons with each other.

"Because a man's pleasure is largely focused on the moment he reaches orgasm, he's under the impression that the same goes for his partner, and that sex without an orgasm is a failure."

One solution is to do as Claire, 26, does: "On several occasions my boyfriend has been annoyed when I've told him (after he asked me!) that I didn't come. Now when I haven't come, I just pretend I have... and we avoid a heated conversation!"

To get some peace

"Faking an orgasm can also prevent a potential conflict and in Claire's case, she doesn't seem to be complaining about a lack of pleasure anyway!"  explains Héril.

The same applies to many situations, as Gemma, 28, confirms: "When I'm not in the mood for nookie but my boyfriend is, I prefer to get it over with quickly and fake an orgasm rather than making a fuss.

The same goes when it starts dragging on a bit and I find myself staring at the ceiling too much! My 'climax' seems to prompt his, plus I know it makes him feel proud of himself afterwards."

It's not always a good idea to tell the whole truth and sometimes a little white lie is better than causing unnecessary hurt or even an argument. Especially as, for both partners, the intentions are good.




  
  

Love & Sex Editor
2012/04/13
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