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Blowjob 101: Spit or swallow?

Maria Bell
by Maria Bell Published on January 25, 2014
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Before we start laying down the hard facts here’s a spoiler alert – we’re going to be talking, in detail, about swallowing stuff you wouldn't want your parents knowing about. So if you feel even slightly awkward about talking about sex, this isn’t the article for you. Anyone who’s accidentally clicked on this looking for the flight patterns of Blue Jays or horse spits then it’s time to make a speedy exit. Now let's get down to it…

It’s the question that has plagued women’s minds for centuries – when he finds his sweet release in your mouth do you a) spit it the hell out or b) close your eyes and swallow it down, imagining it as a spermy smoothie?

For a lot of people, this one’s no biggie but for others, the idea of chugging down a mouthful of warm man-juice has them reaching for the throw up bucket, stat.

Really, there’s no right answer. Swallowing or not swallowing down your guy’s load is totally up to you, and if he objects to either, he’s a jerk. End of. However, making sure you don’t have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with at the same time as not offending anyone can be tricky. So here's our handy tricks and tips to get your head (and mouth) around the spit or swallow conundrum.

Spitting...

We can’t think of anything less sexy than having to spit out a cup full of cum, but if you just can’t handle his love juice what are the alternatives? Well normally we’d advise against ever looking to porn for the answers but those horny ladies have given you a pretty amazing scapegoat – dribbling.

Basically, when your man has his magic moment in your mouth, just let it ‘sexily’ dribble out down your chin. Is it slightly gross? Maybe, but while he’s amazing over the sheer volume of his man load, you won’t have to ingest a thing – winner.

Another option (a la old pornography) is to play to his fantasy ‘cum shots’. When he makes the grand "I’m gunna come!" announcement, just shift yourself around a bit and direct his goods onto your chest or any other body part that’s nowhere near your taste buds.

Years of oppressive porn finally does have it’s benefits right? Just make sure he stays the hell away from your face, there's nothing good that can come of it. While we’re on the subject; other mouth-loving moves from porn that are just plain WRONG: face-f**king, any hand on head action, choking on cum, and any form of your general discomfort to get him off. Just. Say. No.

Swallowing…

It might sound weird but one of the most erotic and intimate things you can do is swallow your guy’s liquid love. We mean, what else signals love more than sharing everything with each other?

The problem that most women have with swallowing cum is purely a psychological one. So once you get your head around the supposed grossness, you might actually like it. Seeing him enjoy it should spur you on no end.

All you need to do is make it work for you and positioning is a biggie. Nothing will trigger that gag reflex more than if you’re mid deep-blow and he decides to surprise you with a quick spurt of semen. You can always have him finish himself off into your mouth as you lick it up from his head. If you’re into it this can be all kinds of hot.

However, let's face it - a slurp of sperm isn't always the most delicious thing. You can help him taste better with these clever tips. ?

But what do you guys really think...

We got some real life quotes from women and men who kinda wanted to stay anonymous...

He says: "I kind of wonder about all the comments that spitting would be "rude". I don't walk around under the impression that my ejaculation is the nectar of the gods and am not offended if someone doesn't enjoy the taste or the sensation of swallowing it. I don't think most other men are that insecure either. That said, swallowing is a very arousing visual."

She says: "Swallow...spitting would be weird and awkward ...and where would I spit it? Also, spitting would feel a bit insulting. Like, 'oh, you got off, great, but I feel a tad bit repulsed now spit."

She says: "?Spitting: It's not sexy, but neither is puking over the side of the bed."

He says: "I'm always shocked when women I'm with like the taste--which I must say I have been pretty lucky about. I think this goes the same for women too, because every woman I've been with has been shocked that I like going down on them and even like the taste. We certainly all carry a vast array of conceptions, stereotypes, etc. about sex, eh?"

Amen.

Feeling brave? Tell us what you think by tweeting at @wewomenCA!

by Maria Bell
Jouez et gagnez une eau de parfum La vie est Belle !
J'en profite !

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