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10 Simple Rules To Maintaining A Successful Sex Buddy Relationship

Cliche Wynter
by Cliche Wynter Published on March 22, 2014

Welcome to the age of hook-up culture! Many men and women are choosing to forgo the pain and hassle relationships bring, and are instead opting for no-strings-attached sex buddies. Why? Because nothing trumps guilt-free pleasure. But before you hop into bed with your next conquest, be sure to follow these rules to ensure your sex buddy relationship runs smoothly.

We women have needs, and we're not afraid to do what it takes to have them met.

Like our male counterparts, a number of us aren't looking for a full-blown relationship. With our busy schedules and ambitious career goals, sometimes we're just looking for a quick orgasm - nothing more.

So how does a gal on-the-go satiate her sexual appetite? By getting a sex buddy of course. If, by any chance, you're unfamiliar with the term, a sex (aka f*ck) buddy is person you turn to strictly for sex. Sounds simple and fun enough, right? Guess again.

Like all things human related, it can get complicated. Luckily we're here to help you navigate your way through a stress-free f*ck buddy relationship.

1. Lay the ground rules early on

First and foremost, you have to lay down the law early.

Do you share if/when you've slept with someone else? Is there a "don't ask, don't tell" policy? How long will this carry on? Whatever the case, you need to have those questions answered before you're in too deep. It helps to prevent things from getting messy.

2. Feelings? Forget about 'em!

Remember: a friend with benefits is just that; nothing less, nothing more. All those cute, fuzzy, romantic feelings you've got bubbling up inside of you? Toss 'em!

The moment you allow yourself to become consumed with emotion, there's no turning back. Before you know it, you'll be knitting him a sweater and baking him heart-shaped sugar cookies (even though you HATE baking!)

It's easy to confuse great sex with great relationship potential sometimes, but if you've set things up to be strictly sexual, there's probably a good reason.

3. Don't mix friends

We repeat: DON'T MIX FRIENDS.

You wouldn't want your friends growing attached to someone who could very well be out of your life tomorrow. You might fully understand your situation, but they won't necessarily get it.

If nothing else, you'll avoid the dreaded question "So, why don't you two try to make it something serious?" Naturally you'd have to curtly reply, "Sex good. Relationship bad. Thanks for asking. Have a great day!"

Ugh, sometimes friends just don't understand!

4. No movie dates or candlelit dinners

You have to limit interaction outside of the bedroom. Movie dates and candlelit dinners? You might as well start planning the wedding.

Those situations only set you up for failure. By failure, we mean you'll catch that airborne illness more commonly known as "feelings". Eww, who wants those for their sex buddy?

When you meet, sure you can chat, joke around and have fun, but you both know you're only there to follow the booty call protocol. Keep things simple.

5. Always use protection

We can't stress the importance of protection enough. Simply put, even when a partner says they're clean and that they'll tell you if they've slept with anyone else, sometimes they lie. It's always better to be safe than sorry.

Also, you'd probably want to wrap it up to avoid an unplanned pregnancy. Talk about complicated...

6. No cuddling

Please don't do the cuddling thing after sex. That's an act we typically reserve for people we actually share emotions with.

Here's a tip: if you're cold, ask for an extra blanket. It does the trick every single time, we promise!

7. Don't share personal info

Your sex buddy has no business knowing anything about your family drama. They don't need to know your hopes and dreams either. Their only obligation is picking up their phone when you're ready for another romp in the sack.

8. Keep things fun

This whole situation is about pleasure fulfillment and being a free spirit, remember? It's supposed to be fun. Try new moves with reckless abandon. So what if you suck the first time around? Use it all as a learning experience.

Having a strictly sexual relationship with some one allows you to push you boundaries that little bit further and experiment. Kink things up with no inhibitions, try out your strip tease routine or that new position your gal pal just told you about, the possibilities are endless!

9. Don't spend holidays together

Um, why would you? People always ascribe importance to holidays. You wouldn't want to give anyone the wrong idea when your sex buddy shows up for Christmas dinner.

Let's just say it wouldn't be easy explaining to your grandmother that you're only using each other for sex. Awkward much?

10. Avoid being thoughtful

That cute shirt you know he'd look great in? Don't buy it. His favorite dish? Leave that up to his mom to make. Get in the bedroom, and get out. It's as simple as that.

Yes, we know how harsh this might all sound. But it's for your own good!

Do you have any tips for keeping things simple with a sex buddy? Tweet us @wewomenCA!

by Cliche Wynter

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