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Separate Beds: Could you benefit from sleeping apart?
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Marie and her boyfriend James
Marie Teather and her boyfriend James have been together for three years and enjoy sharing every aspect of their lives with each other, including sleeping.

“For me, if you are in a relationship with someone you love it seems very strange you would want to sleep apart,” says Marie.

“Naturally I would say I would prefer to be awake a while longer while he is quite keen to go to sleep earlier but it is something you adapt to.

Usually I say: ‘Oh, I don’t want to go to sleep yet’ but often I’m fast asleep within ten minutes anyway! You do get used to each other’s sleeping patterns and develop a routine - it is all about compromise.”

“I quite often shuffle over to his side of the bed and snuggle in, especially if it is cold. It’s lovely to snuggle up to somebody and we often have a little chatter during the night if one of us wakes up to use the bathroom or to check phones.

I really would not like sleeping apart. We spend a lot of time together, we plan things together and it just seems really natural that we would sleep together too.”


Julie Penfold
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