Have a shared vision

Knowing that you're on the same page as your partner is a biggie. If your life plans are totally opposite then there's no way you will want (or will be able) to stay together.

Denise says: "Update your vision every Valentine's Day or anniversary; a short term plan and a long term one.

Feeling like you are on the same side is essential for overcoming all the intrusions into your relationship, from hobbies and in-laws to work and children."

• How to keep the love alive
• Learn to argue
• Learn to communicate
• Pick realistic role models
• Have some understanding
• Have a shared vision
• Keep respect
• Make time for each other
• Have fun