Pick realistic role models
People are always looking for something to work towards but the trick is to make it realistic.
Denise says: "It might be lovely to try to aspire to be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie or the Beckhams but it is not helpful in the grittier parts of life - their lives do not have the same stresses and strains as yours."
Instead maybe keep it closer to home.
"Have you got a relative you admire, is there an older neighbour who seems to be happy - ask them about what makes their relationship tick," she explains. "They will be delighted to tell you (and may be honest about the downsides, too)."
No couple is perfect but having the help and insight of someone who has been through it all will give you some perspective.